Going to University – West vs East

I had my graduation! It’s officially over now! I’m no longer a student! …I’m really going to miss it… 😦 University changed me for the better, not because of my course, but because of the experiences of moving away, living by myself and meeting new people.

Education is clearly rather different in the West and the East. Focusing on Hong Kong and the UK, the pressure in Hong Kong to do well is far greater than in the UK. Children do many more exams and from an earlier age. According to my boyfriend, children are ranked in their classes from best to worst (I couldn’t disagree with this more) and some primary schools want to see how clever the child is before they let them attend.

I want to talk about the ideas and attitudes that British and Hong Kong people have when going to any university in general, but maybe other countries will fit into what I am saying. I have no experience of the education system in Hong Kong. I can only talk about what friends have told me.

Here are 3 stories from my boyfriend (Hong Kong born but lives in the UK), myself (lived in the UK all my life) and my friend (Moved from Hong Kong a few months ago to attend university in the UK) about the decisions when it comes to the last part of education; university.

Story 1

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My boyfriend was living in the UK when it was time to choose a university, and he applied to the 2 in his home town. His parents didn’t go with him to open days or look at the universities. All they did was tell him which course he was allowed to do, not considering the fact he may not enjoy it, not want to do it as a career and most of all, he may be quite bad at it! He wanted to study Business or ICT. They chose for him Accounting and refused to sign guarantor papers for the fees and his rent unless he did what they said. My boyfriend has told me it is because they thought it “sounded better”. He had some huge arguments with his parents about moving into halls of residence. They didn’t want him to go because they lived a bus ride from the university he got into. Money saving was more important than the experiences you can gain from university. I admit for many people there is nothing they can do but save money. With the rising costs of university, people aren’t being able to leave home. But my boyfriend had the money to do it and he wanted to do it.

Story 2

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Story 3

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My good friend recently moved from Hong Kong to the UK. She really wanted to move here and is currently studying at university. However, she had also applied for a course at a Hong Kong University. While she didn’t want to stay in HK, she was convinced that the course in would mean better job prospects because it was a slightly more highly regarded university. While this may be true in Hong Kong (I don’t know for sure), in the UK this isn’t such a big issue. Oxbridge may initially look appealing to employers, a 1st degree at a middle of the range uni is far better than a 3rd at Oxford, and probably easier to achieve. She was then extremely upset when she didn’t get into the Hong Kong university, or her first choice of course (this is understandable) and is planning on doing this degree, then applying for a different degree once she has finished, then doing further higher education courses afterwards. Now she is here in the UK, I think she has lightened up a bit, but she still seems desperate to be better than everyone else.

In my opinion…

…of course you want to get a good degree, you don’t want to waste all the money spent to come away with nothing to show for it, and you want to get a good job eventually, but university is so much more than working. It’s about learning to be independent, buying your own food, cleaning for yourself, socialising with new and different people, managing your own time and money, experiencing a new place, discovering yourself, and most of all having fun! You will have a life time of working ahead of you. You might as well have some fun while you can. University should be the best 3 years of your life.

What are your thoughts? What do you think is the most important reason for going to university? 

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The 30 Day Challenge – Week 4

The final part a little late, I’ve been busy (I got a job!) and forgot about it! Feel free to take part yourself. The questions are here.

Day 24 – Your favourite movie and what it’s about.

I love the Princess Bride. It’s a romance, a comedy and a fantasy film. Here is a summary of the plot, stolen from IMBD.

When a young boy falls ill, his grandfather pops round to visit him. To cheer his grandson up, Grandpa has brought a storybook; The Princess Bride, a tale of the love between the beautiful Buttercup and the besotted Westley, a love cruelly interrupted by Westley’s tragic apparent death at sea when seeking his fortune. Heartbroken, Buttercup has sworn never to love again, but accepts the marriage proposal of the rich and handsome Prince Humperdinck, heir to the throne of Florin; but death is no barrier to true love, and in a story filled with exotically-accented swordsmen, big-hearted giants, genius kidnappers, sadistic torturers, vile swamps, Rodents of Unusual Size, the Dread Pirate Roberts and a somewhat embittered miracle worker, the love between Westley and Buttercup twists and turns on a path filled with adventure. Will the True Love of Westley and Buttercup win the day? Will Inigo Montaya find the six-fingered man who murdered his father? Will Humperdinck’s evil plans come to fruition? And, more importantly, will Grandpa be able to tell the story without any of the yucky kissing?

Day 25 – Someone who fascinates you and why.

Derren Brown fascinates me. If you don’t know him, he is a British Illusionist. He says that what he does is dishonest, but he is very honest about his dishonesty. He has done things like make someone believe the apocalypse had come, he guessed the numbers to the lottery live, he went to America to debunk people who say they are psychic or that they can “talk to the dead” and he even got someone to “murder” Stephen Fry (with a fake gun). He is just so clever. To top things off, he is a fantastic artist as well. Just wow. If you get a chance, take a look at some of his shows.

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via derrenbrown.co.uk

Day 26 – What kind of person attracts you.

Attractive people…

Nah, personality is what attracts me. I rarely have initial attraction to anyone. I have to get to know them first.

Day 27 – A problem that you have had.

My friend has gone crazy and thinks we can’t be friends because I have a boyfriend and she doesn’t…that’s annoying me a fair bit. I’m sure she’ll get over it… 😛

Day 28 – Something that you miss.

I miss university life. It was amazing. Cherish time at university because you’ll really miss it when it’s over!

Day 29 – Goals for the next 30 days.

I don’t really have any. Not a lot of ambition in the next month for me!

Day 30 – Your highs and lows of this month.

Highs = I got a job, I get to spend lots of time with my boyfriend now he lives with me at my parents house, I’ll be graduating soon.

Lows = I have to go to work now! 😉

The end!

You can read Week 1, Week 2 and Week 3 here.

No sex please, we’re Japanese

My boyfriend and I have started watching some of the BBCs “This World” programmes that have been on recently, presented by Anita Rani.

The first was on BBC Two called, No sex please, we’re Japanese.

The show essentially was about the lack of people in Japan having children. There are now far more older people in Japan, to the extent that nappies for the elderly are outselling babies nappies. They showed a town which once had 21 primary schools, and now has just 1. The town had to close their maternity ward because there was no one having babies at all. The people said that the town had nothing to attract younger people, but also the birth rate is dropping very dramatically in Japan in general.

They started looking into the reasons as to why the birth rate is dropping. The reasons included culture, distractions, the economy and immigration.

Japan is so different from the rest of the world. Anime and manga, for example, is created not just for the younger generation but for the older ones too. One guy on the show was married, but he had a virtual girlfriend on a game called Love Plus for his Nintendo DS. He considered this his actual girlfriend and didn’t want to tell his wife about it. These men were called Otaku – geeks who are obsessed with anime and manga and tune out of the real world to live in a fantasy. It’s a common thing in Japan. A place in Tokyo called Akihabara (I want to go!) is full of anime and manga to please these sorts of people. They said that with entertainment and distraction like that, why would you want a complicated relationship?

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The state of the economy means that men in Japan have confidence issues, believing they will never amount to a lot and never make any more money than their parents did. They therefore want to revert to a childlike state of computer games and a virtual world to make them feel more comfortable. It is easier to deal with the virtual world than a real woman.

Other reasons for the dropping birth rates included that there are a lot of immigration rules in Japan making it harder for people from other cultures to come over, keeping the culture very traditional. In Japan men often think that women should stay at home, have children and be a housewife, whereas the women want a career. If you have children in Japan, in many ways it can end your career. Basically they were saying that if they were more interracial relationships, maybe there would be a population boost!

One survey said that just 27% of couples in Japan said they had sex every week. I’m not sure if it is just me…but that’s really not a lot is it!? Why do you guys think the birth rate in Japan is dropping?

You can read a more in-depth article by Anita Rani here. It focuses on the part of the show about men preferring anime and manga to real life women. Those in the UK can watch a clip of the two men with virtual girlfriends.

“Your children are going to be Asian”

It’s far too early to think about this (if my boyfriend is reading, don’t get any ideas) but I do wonder…what will my kids look like? My friends like to tell me i’m going to have Asian children…but that’s clearly not true, I’m not Asian. They’ll be half Asian and half white. They may however look more Asian than white, and that does make me wonder just how different they will look from me.

So what colour will their hair and eyes be? In my head I always assumed they would be blonde, but that is unlikely to happen now thanks to my boyfriend’s genes (unless I leave my boyfriend or they dye it). To explain why, it’s time for a (very simplified) lesson in genetics – the only thing I managed to remember from GCSE Science.

Everyone has 2 genes relating to hair/eye colour. There are two types of gene (in my simplified version); B and b. If we just focus on hair colour then:

B = Brown/Black hair

b  = Blonde hair

You will get one gene from your Mum and one from you Dad.

B is dominant, meaning if you get a B gene from a parent, you will have brown hair.

b is recessive, meaning while you may not have blonde hair, your child could.

I have bb genes as I have blonde hair. My boyfriend has BB genes as he is Asian – pretty much all Asians will be BB.

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The graph above shows my genes, bb, and my boyfriends genes, BB, and what will happen if our child gets one gene from each of us. As you can see, the only result is Bb. As B is dominant over b, this means our children will have black/brown hair. The same works for eye colour. Brown eyes are dominant over blue.

In my situation, however, the children would become carriers of the blonde hair gene, meaning there is a possibility of blonde haired Grandchilden (thinking way too far ahead now!!!)

Of course there are always exceptions, but the chances of anything other than a dark haired, brown eyed child are about 0.1%. I never did like science…

So that is how colour comes about, but what about the facial features?

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From the majority of the photos I have found, it seems that the half Asian/half Caucasian children have quite large eyes but slanted like an Asian. The nose, mouth and facial shape seems to vary between mother, father or a mix of the mother and father. They also seem to have fair, Caucasian skin and a Caucasian facial shape. The general view of Asian/Caucasian mixed race people is that they are very attractive!

Of course it is different for everyone and the degree as to which a person looks like one race or the other can change. Looking at celebrities as an example, Keanu Reeves, Ne-Yo and KT Tunstall are a quarter Chinese, and Kristin Kreuk and Eddie Van Halen are half Chinese. It’s not always obvious!

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Smallville actress Kristin Kreuk is half Chinese 

I found this website called MorphThing. You can put in a photo of yourself to see what your baby would look like if you had one with various different celebrities that they have loaded onto the site. You could also put in your own photo, so I decided to try it with photos of me and my boyfriend. This is the result.

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Kinda scary! (Probably should have found a photo without glasses too). I decided to put in photos of my Mum and Dad to see what the baby looked like, and the boy and girl version didn’t look a thing like either myself or my brother, so I’m fairly sure my child will not look this this!

So in conclusion, I’m probably going to have a little Caucasian child with Asian eyes and brown hair. But it’s far too early to be thinking about that anyway!

…I wonder what names would be good…

Images: itsxandy.tumblr.com, weloveinterracial.tumblr.com, morphthing.com

Quoted

I think my boyfriend is really funny (but I’m probably the only person who thinks this). I have decided to make a blog post of some of the stupid/cute/funny/random things that he has said to me recently. Enjoy the strangeness.

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On missing me (via Skype)

Him: Wanna wub my face against yours

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On our relationship (via Skype)

Me: Do you like that I am clingy?
Him: Yes, it’s better than not caring
Me: Would you like me to be more clingy?
Him: Nah, it’s at a good moderate amount right now

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On where to take his family when visiting London (Via Skype)

Me: They can choose but you can suggest. Museums are always cool.
Him: Yeah, that’s what I’m doing. Not sure how much Asians are interested in museums compared to landmarks.
Me: London landmarks take about 3 seconds to look at.
Him:  Knowing Asians they will take 30 minutes just to take the photos.

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Complimenting me (Via Skype)

Him: You’re the prettiest. No one can beat you.

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Random chatting (Via Skype)

Him: yeah asians are mostly layeah
Me: layeah?
Him: what ?
Me: What is layeah?
Him: erm cant remeber what i said 0.o

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On not getting any job interviews (Via text)

Him: I need a hug so bad right now… My heart is crying

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On applying for better jobs than the one he has (via Skype)

Him: THEY WANT EXPERIENCE
Him: HOW THE HELL AM I GOING TO GET THAT
Him: im going to cry alot
Him: ill never get a job
Him: we will have baby in a year and get on benefits
Him: then we will start taking cannibis and watch sky tv
Me: You already have a job you moron…

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Talking to my best friend (via Skype)

Him: [My name]’s rubbish so you will be my new friend
Her: k 😀
Him: girlfriend ?
Her: if you wants 😀
Her: lets run away
Him: ok 😛
Her: nah me and [my name] made up
Her: dont want to no more 🙂
Him: well thats the shortest relationship I have ever been in

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Grabbing me at the top of the stairs

Him: Cuddle
Me: Don’t push me down the stairs.
Him: Don’t worry, I won’t push you down the stairs. Not until you get your pension and write that if you die you give all the money to me.
Me: No way, my money is going to [my rabbit].

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Whenever he hugs me

Him: I’m a koala.

(Weird that I found this!) – http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/koala/

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Walking home

Him: The new grown grass is really cute.
Me: What?
Him: The grass is cute when it’s new and grown out.
Me: Did you just say the grass is cute? What is wrong with you?
Him: I like it when it wiggles out from the seed. Wiggle wiggle.

Later, when seeing grass that has been mowed.

Him: The grass has been shaved.

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Completely randomly

Him: Mustard
Me: Why did you just say mustard?
Him: Mustard came into my head, so I said it.

I’m back! (with Moon cake!)

I am back from a trip to my boyfriend’s parents house. I didn’t see much of them – we were quite busy seeing friends from Hong Kong. We went ice skating, bowling, to the cinema, to the park, to the shopping centre and high street shops, to a Chinese buffet, to several restaurants and to cake shops. I’m so tired now! I also managed to practise my Cantonese with them. (I kept saying Chest Cat…more on that later)

While I was there, I tried some moon cake. This is basically very delayed, as you’ve all blogged about moon cakes already, but it was my first time trying it so I feel the need to post! My boyfriend stocked up on lots of Chinese noodles from the Chinese supermarket, as we have no idea where one is near where we are living now, and while we were there we saw the moon cakes being sold off and he decided to buy one for me to try.

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Can anyone tell me what the characters on the moon cake and packaging mean?

It looks so pretty…but me being me, I didn’t like it. I can see why people do like it though. The lotus seed paste wasn’t as horrific as I’d first though. It tasted quite nutty. The egg yolk inside it however was pretty nasty. You don’t need that! After a few bites, I decided I’d had enough and my boyfriend downed the whole thing in about 2 bites.

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My friend from Hong Kong told me that the Haagen Dazs shops do a chocolate ice cream version of a moon cake…I want one! Though I guess I’ll never get one if it means having to go to Hong Kong in September – I couldn’t stand the weather! So that’s another piece of Chinese cuisine I don’t like. I’ll keep searching for something I do like though and you’ll definitely all know about it when I find it!

Anyway, just a short post. Lots of you want the rest of the story of how I met my boyfriend. I’ll get to writing that and post it over the next week. Stay tuned!

The 30 Day Challenge (with a twist)

I recently found this 30 Day Challenge on Tumblr and I wanted to do it…but I didn’t want to spam you all with 30 days worth of constant blog posts! So instead I will do this challenge everyday, but I will post the answers only once a week. I will answer 8 questions this week, 8 questions next week, 7 questions for the 3rd week then 7 questions for the final week.

So here are my first set of answers!

Day 01 – Your current relationship, if single discuss how single life is.

My current relationship, as you probably all guessed, is with my Asian boyfriend from Hong Kong. He will soon be living with me at my parents house (he is now living with me, I wrote this before he was) while we look for good jobs so that we can rent a flat together. He is my best friend, my first boyfriend and hopefully my last boyfriend.

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Ughh, I’m becoming cutesy and pathetic. I hate myself.

Day 02 – Where you’d like to be in 10 years.

Married and thinking about having children! Notice that I didn’t say “Married with children”. I don’t want to have children really late in life but I don’t want them early either. I want as much fun as I can before settling down.

Day 03 – Your views on drugs and alcohol.

Drugs are bad, I think people who take drugs are just a bit stupid or easily led. Alcohol is fine in small amounts but I don’t like it. If you’ve read my previous blogs about my eating habits, you will know that I don’t like food. The same applies to drinks. I don’t really like vodka and I don’t like anything fizzy.

Day 04 – Your views on religion.

I’m not religious. I definitely believe we evolved from monkeys and Earth was created by the big bang. However, I don’t NOT believe in God…I just find it very unlikely that he exists. I would need complete proof. If he comes down and has a chat with me i’ll be more than happy to believe in him. I talk about God with Christianity in my mind, as that is the main religion of the UK (if you don’t include atheists/agnostics as a religion). There are so many religions, so who is to say which is the right one? Someone (or everyone) has to be wrong. Sadly, I think religion is the cause of a lot of problems in the world. I’m more than happy for people to be religious and believe what they want, as long as they don’t feel the need to force their views on other people.

Also, to be topical:

Gay marriage = fine.

Forcing churches to marry gay people when they don’t want to = not fine.

Being selfish and wanting a church wedding when you clearly aren’t religious isn’t really fair on the religious people, and the fact gay people can now get married AND have a civil partnership means they have more rights than the rest of us. Everyone should be allowed to get married (e.g scrap civil partnerships) and churches should be allowed to choose who they marry . There is nothing wrong with a registry office! That’s where i’ll be getting married one day.

Day 05 – A time you thought about ending your own life.

I have NEVER thought of ending my own life.

If anyone reading this ever has a suicidal thought…just don’t even bother. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and even if you don’t think so, you have so much to live for. It will always get better!

Day 06 – Write 30 interesting facts about yourself.

God…that’s a lot of facts. I can’t promise these will be interesting! Blonde-anime-waving-for-blog

1. I’m a girl.
2. I’m 22.
3. My hair is blonde.
4. My eyes are blue.
5. I’m not girly.
6. I’m from England.
7. I live in the countryside.
8. My boyfriend is Asian.
9. I’ve been to Hong Kong and I loved it.
10. I have been to 8 different countries if you include England.
11. My favourite colour is blue…or maybe red.
12. My favourite animal is a rabbit.
13. My favourite book is Harry Potter (all of them!).
14. My favourite food is chocolate.
15. I love Studio Ghibli.
16. My best friend is obsessed with anime and manga thanks to me.
17. My best friend forced me cosplay once and now I really enjoy it.
18. I hate swearing.
19. I have far too many cuddly toys.
20. I was probably the only person in my halls of residence to bother buying a TV license.
21. I love the beach but I’m not very good at swimming.
22. I like late night walks with my boyfriend.
23. I’m really unsociable.
24. I don’t have many friends but the ones I do are really great friends.
25. I wish I could get a job working with animals but I know there is no money in that.
26. I need to learn to drive.
27. I think being British is the best nationality. Actually something like Swiss is probably better…
28. I stay up far too late writing blog posts.
29. I’m mostly English but i’m also a little bit Welsh and a little bit Irish.
30. I’m a little bit weird.

Day 07 – Your zodiac sign and if you think it fits your personality.

I am Leo. My zodiac element is fire and my ruling planet is the sun. (Why do I hate hot weather then?) According to the internet Leo’s are confident (in most ways yes, in social situations no), ambitious (not especially), generous (it’s not often I share cake), loyal (I am), encouraging (I’m not good at being overly nice to people but I do try to encourage them), pretentious (hmm, not really), domineering (occasionally), melodramatic (i’m not dramatic at all), stubborn (I admit I am pretty stubborn) and vain (I’m the least vain person ever, I’ve only worn make up about 6 times in my whole life…)

If we’re talking about the Chinese zodiac, I am a sheep or goat. One of the most boring zodiac animal in my opinion! Apparently Sheep people are elegant (not really but thanks), charming (I have my moments), artistic (very!), gifted (I don’t want to brag but…;)), fond of nature (I love wildlife and animals!), insecure (I don’t think i’m insecure at all), shy (I am shy), dreamers (I love to dream), worriers (not really, i’m quite laid back), lazy (YES), obsessed with appearance (no, no, no), romantic (I wish I was), sweet (I am), bossy (yes), creative (yes) and caring (yes).

I also found this on the internet…so apparently I would be a good prostitute and I’m going to have an affair? >_<

Sheep women dream of marriage with a rich man, an affair with a generous boyfriend, or a liaison with some influential patron. Failing this, she will be happy living at home with wealthy parents. She is the stuff of which are made courtesans, prostitutes, management consultants, public relations officers and other parasites. She is also the stuff of which great artists and writers are made. Everything depends on her luck and the influences at work in her life.

Day 08 – A moment you felt the most satisfied with your life.

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I’m generally satisfied. My life is great. I’m extremely lucky that my family all like each other, my parents aren’t divorced and we have never had any money problems. The only bad times have been family deaths. I’m easily pleased and I have everything I could ever want (except a pony and a swimming pool) so why would I be dissatisfied?

If anyone else decides to take part, please tell me! I’d love to read!

Images: weheartit.com, wikia.org, horsebreedsinfo.com

(p.s I’m off to my boyfriend’s parents house tomorrow so I might not be online for several days!)

How I met my boyfriend

This is the story of how I met my boyfriend. Not how I got together with my boyfriend – how I met him and how we became friends, way before he became my boyfriend.

I had just arrived at my halls of residence. I knew that the next day my parents were going to leave me in this place, 250 miles away from my home, where I knew no one at all, and I was pretty scared! As we moved some of my things into my room, an Asian guy appeared in the corridor and my Mum started the conversation for me as I am shy and awkward.

My Mum: Hi, do you live here?

My boyfriend: Err, no, I live in the room here. *Points to the room next door*

(That’s what she meant!)

We introduced each other, shook hands (we’re British!) and he told me if there was anything I needed, to ask him. That was it for day one. I knew nothing about him except his name. I assumed he was a Chinese international student because of his accent. Little did I know his accent wasn’t as Chinese as it could be. I’d never spoken to a Chinese person before so I had no idea.

I’d chatted to some of my other flat mates, but mostly I just stayed in my room. I decided I needed to take the opportunity to chat to someone, so a couple of days later when I saw him coming out of his room, I said…

Me: Hey, I was just going down the shops, I wondered if you wanted to come?

My boyfriend: Oh..err…I can’t. I have to go to university. Maybe another time though.

Me: Oh, ok, see you later then.

And I walked off to the shop, feeling rejected. Normally at this point I would give up, I’m really that lazy when it comes to being sociable. However, I managed to chat with him a few times in the kitchen over the rest of the week. He offered to take me around the city, as he had lived here for 9 years at this point and I had no clue where anything was. He gave me a mini tour of the city while I talked non-stop and he just nodded occasionally. It was at this point I found out he wasn’t a Chinese international student, he had lived here for a while and he actually knew English quite well. He took my phone number just in case of emergency, like getting locked out of the flat. (Something he had already done several times)

I was going through a really bad time in my life when I started university. In the second week, my Mum came up to visit me and give me some bad news in person. While I was crying in the hotel, he text me. I told him what had happened and he text back saying sorry…he didn’t seem overly sorry but at least he hadn’t made a horrible joke like I know some people would have. He then asked for my MSN address so we could talk a bit more.

From that moment on we talked on MSN for ages, even though we were living next door to each other. It was easier for us both to have long conversations on MSN, then message “Going to the kitchen now, want to come?” and have a chat in there while we cooked. I found out an actor I liked was at the theatre in my city, so I invited him to come with me to “stalk” the actor after the play ended. He agreed to come along, and I think that moment revealed just how truly mental I am…and he accepted me for it. We sat outside the theatre eating fish and chips, and he took photos for me as the actor left out of the stage door. That was the start of a beautiful friendship.

Soon after, he sent me an MSN message asking me out. I said no…but that’s a story for another time. 😀

I don’t know about you, but i’m feeling 22

At the end of July, I turned 22. I don’t actually feel 22. (I just felt like getting a Taylor Swift quote in the title)

I’m actually often mistaken for a 16 year old – I think it’s because I do look younger than I am mixed with the fact that I don’t wear make-up and I don’t dress very adult-y. I’m a jeans and t-shirt sort of person. But I’ve finished University and I’m looking for a job. I’m officially an adult no matter how much I don’t feel like one.

Yes, I’ve been allowed to have sex, get married and smoke for 6 years (smoking age actually changed from 16 to 18 when I was 16 but who cares, I don’t want to smoke), I’ve been allowed to drive for 5 years and I’ve been allowed to drink, gamble, go clubbing and vote for 4 years…but due to the fact I don’t overly care about those things, being allowed to do them hasn’t made me feel any older.

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This doesn’t make me feel older. It usually just makes me feel a bit bored…

But I admit, I don’t feel the same as I did when I was 18. I have grown up a lot and I think I have changed significantly. Going to University and falling in love are the main 2 things that affected me. At the age of 19 I moved 250 miles away from my parents to live on my own. At the age of 20 I first had sex. At the age of 21 I left Europe to go to Asia for the first time, and it was my first time on a plane without my parents. At the age of 22, if all goes to plan, I should be moving in to my first real flat or house with my boyfriend. All that has definitely made me a different person but for the better. I am more confident, more independent, more sociable (still not very sociable but that’ll never change) and more understanding of the world. I’m not the same person I was 3 years ago…but that still doesn’t make me feel old enough to be an adult!!!

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Living in halls of residence and meeting my boyfriend really changed me.

Recently, my Mum revealed to me that she met my Dad when they were 22. I had wrongly assumed that they were around 25 when they got together. I don’t know why but it really surprised me to think that they got together when they were at my age. For me a relationship is an adult thing. I don’t believe many people are old enough for a real relationship before the age of 18, though admittedly there are  fair few people who are under 18 and much more mature than many adults. I know I definitely wasn’t ready before I was 18 years old, or after for that matter! Now when I really think about what is happening in my life, with my relationship and with my age…it makes everything seem a bit more real that it did before.

I see all these 13 year old girls dressing up like they are in their 20s and often you can’t tell! You can see why some guys end up sleeping with under age girls, it’s not obvious at all. I’m not condoning it but if a young girl who looks 20 is leading them on, they aren’t going to ask for a birth certificate. These girls often look a lot older than I do. I just think, why would you want to grow up!? Being a teenager is so much fun. I admit, late teens is more fun than early teens – you can do what you want, you can live by yourself, you can have fun and you have no responsibilities. I miss university so much already and I only finished it a few months ago.

Maybe everyone at some point feels like they aren’t old enough for the life they are living…or maybe I am just desperate to not grow up. 

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Tokyo 2020

You may or may not have seen the news yet, but Tokyo has just been announced to host the 2020 Olympics. It’ll be back to Asia for the first time since the 2008 Olympics in Beijing. I think I know where I want to go in 2020!

My boyfriend and I really want to go to Japan at some point, but the problem is when. We don’t have enough money at the moment and I really want to go back to Hong Kong first. I loved the London Olympics. I went to one of the Equestrian events and also a Paralympic event which were both amazing, and I want to go to another Olympics in a different country one day…so maybe waiting 7 years for this would be a good idea? It might be VERY busy though.

Together with my boyfriend, we have complied a list of things we would like to see in Japan. I don’t know too much about Japan so these are just a few things we found while searching the internet:

Square Enix Showcase, cafe and shop
I am a big fan of the Final Fantasy series, so this would be a really cool place to check out. My boyfriend wouldn’t be too interested, but he’ll have to put up with it. 😉

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Pokemon Center
It’s a shop full of Pokemon. If that had existed in the UK when I was 10 years old I would have been the happiest child in the world. As my boyfriend said, as a Pokemon fan, not going to a Pokemon Center would be foolish.

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Hot Springs
Onsen. This sounds really cool, though I won’t be wanting to go if I have to go in a girls only hot spring or i’m not allowed to wear a swimming costume…It would be a once in a lifetime kind of thing.

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Cherry Blossom Trees
I think these blossom the best in the spring so if we went for the Olympics it would be at the wrong time, but really Japan without seeing cherry blossom is just wrong!

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Yakushima
Beautiful National Park, but probably too far away.

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Mount Fuji
My boyfriend suggested this, but it’s something I would love to see too, especially after studying Hokusai at school and seeing it in his famous series of woodblock prints.

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Himeji Castle
When my boyfriend mentioned this, I was expecting a typical castle like you see in the UK, but this looks very impressive and very Japanese! Apparently it’s one of the largest and oldest castles in Japan.

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Tokyo Disneyland and DisneySea
What can I say, I love Disney!

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Akihabara
My boyfriend has a program on his computer with lots of CCTV camera films from around the world. The one for Japan shows Akihabra which apparently has lots of great shops!

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Rainbow Bridge
When my boyfriend mentioned Rainbow Bridge, I was thinking of the depressing poem about where animals go when they die, but actually it looks very pretty.

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Kiyomizu-dera
A temple in Kyoto on a hill, with impressive views.

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The Imperial Palace and Edo Castle
I don’t know much about this, except that the Emperor lives here! 😉

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Tokyo Tower
It looks a lot like a more colourful version of the Eiffel Tower.

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Tokyo Skytree
It’s a big broadcasting tower… 😛

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Hiroshima
Probably far too hard to get too from Tokyo, but my boyfriend would like to see this. It’s a huge part of history so I’m sure it would be an amazing thing to visit.

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Does anyone else have more suggestions of places to visit in Japan? I’ve got 7 years to plan this trip, I might as well start now 😉